Look, there is noooo doubt it happens on both sides. Women initiate it, and men also initiate it. It’s not just a man hitting a woman problem in domestic violence. The problem is only one side gets the news so it seems one sided. If a man reports getting abused he’s looked at as a *, which (maybe true) isn’t fair.
Men who initiate domestic violence are pieces of the stickiest **** you can find. Everybody agrees with that, or should. And I have no problem with a woman defending herself by any mean necessary. But in a situation where it is a woman who initiates the physical altercation, I’m not gonna sit here and “oh he’s a man he should take or just walk away”.
Now me, if I get into some type of verbal altercation with a drunk female for instance (which I have) and she is with her dude, before I say a insult or anything, I’m loookin at ole boy, like “bro get your chick”. If that doesn’t work I’ll do my best to ignore her. BUT if a random chick steps to me like she a man and attempts to hit me, ima defend myself with necessary force for that situation (which has never happened). Doesn’t mean ima full on fight her like a man, but I’m not gonna sit there and get slapped, a drink thrown at me or punched then say “well it’s a woman”.
I was raised to never put my hands on any woman/girl, like most. SOME Girls are also keen to this lil loophole in the “keep her hands to herself” rule we all here as kids. I work at school and I’ve had girls hit or mess with some of the boys and a boy hits the girl back. The girl will say “boys aren’t allowed to hit girls” lol. My response to that is, well you hit him first so what happens after that, all bets are off. Then I’ll pull the boy to side and try to explain to him that he’s much stronger than her and next time just come tell the adult. But I’m not gonna reprehend him for his action.
My advice to men who find themselves in these situations at a party or out in public comes from my school resource officer, have someone take out their phone and start recording the entire situation. Because if something goes down and cops do shows up the preconceived notion is already ingrained in ppls head that the man was the aggressor and at fault. You saw it with the Kareem Hunt situation how that girl all of a sudden goes full franny from the movie rosewood when the cops arrived
