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Interesting thread. First, everyone be civil. You can disagree with @Caned Peach but no need for the personal insults. Not warranted.
I don't agree with everything @Caned Peach has posted. I think a little too much is being made of an isolated incident. We have 0 idea what happens in-doors and how Mario and the kids interact. This thread feels a little like a referendum on Mario's coaching style and attitude and that's taking it too far from what OP posted.
That said, I'm not a fan of the conduct described in OP. I am in a field where mistakes happen all the time. My personal individual leadership style has developed to not play the blame game. I think it breeds negativity and "victim-hood." Instead, I prefer to address the mistake and adjust and figure out how to proceed. I get more from my folks that way and they're more engaged to right the wrong because they know I'm not going to waste time crying over spilled milk or making a show out of it.
Players take their queue from the coaches. When you blame Kelly for the TD, the next time a mistake happens, players [may] follow the lead and blame player "X" for blowing coverage leading to a TD. Now they feel they're the victim b/c player "X" blew the coverage. Instead, I want to develop a resilient team that doesn't play the blame game and instead of feeling sorry for itself and blaming someone else, immediately shifts to how can we respond.
Last, lost is @Caned Peach overarching point (I think) that this generation of kids is different. What worked for us, may not work for this generation. And you can't sit there in a leadership or management position and whine that kids are "soft" or "entitled" or "lazy" because that'll get you nowhere. You just got to evolve and deal with it in order to squeeze as much juice as you can from each kid. If you can't evolve in this field, you lose touch and you won't succeed.
Thanks, Alex. It's always okay to disagree on some or a lot of things. At times we lose sight of that.
I used to travel to a lot of our games back during the Grassy days. Both at home and away. Well, all were away since I lived in Georgia but the every other year GT one. What I found back then is that lots of folks have this online persona they take on when typing that kinda goes against their everyday one. Had nothing to do w/ courage or who's more of a bad **** or not. Just a curiosity that when meeting up in person or being introduced by a mutual friend, that many of these folks were down to earth and not as much like their screen name style. Maybe things have changed a lot since those days. My guess is they haven't and sharing some beers or shots of Crown Royal are still things we can all have in common.
Appreciate your words.