Look, I was playing HORSE with my 5 year old on a lowered hoop two days ago. 5 year olds are just getting the ball to the hoop (sometimes) on a lowered basket, from like 5' out. He loves shooting baskets though and being able to play with me. You have to be a potato to think that if I just start knocking down 3's and crush him every time yelling 'in your face' that it will teach him anything other than not wanting to continue playing basketball. I am not counting on my retirement coming from his NBA signing bonus, so fostering a love of the game is more important than anything at this point.
This is in no way condoning participation trophies or not teaching kids they have to earn things. But if you are so simple minded that you can't be pluralistic in application of how and when to apply different ways to teach that, you shouldn't be reproducing.
I feel bad for some of the kids of the parents in here that their parents reproduced and carried on terrible parenting because they can't think beyond the terrible parenting that they were given. Use your brains.
You are the simple minded one here.
Nobody is talking about toddlers here.
At a certain age, whether it’s 6 or 7 or 10, kids develop enough awareness and perception to know when you’re holding back. Hold back, and let them win, whether it’s sports, or board games, or any competition, and
they will know it.
Thereby, they lose respect for themselves, for you, and for competition. They will get the win, when they have earned the win.
When they eventually beat you, and they will, at that point comes a real sense of winning and accomplishment. And they will learn that lesson for the rest of their lives. that you have to work hard and earn your wins.
In real life, participation trophies don’t get you paid.
Life is a competition, whether you “pluralistic” types want to accept it or not.
I’m glad my kids are going up against people that raise kids nice and soft. More chances for them to win. In whatever they choose in life.
And even if they don’t win every time, which they won’t, they’ll know they worked their *** off to get there to try to get the win - and just try harder the next time.