So please let us know what exactly the rules are regarding this word.
Can I sing along to my favorite songs or not? If I'm doing karaoke, do I have to pause during that word? Is it appropriate for popular songs to include that word knowing most of the listeners are not black?
If you are at a concert can you sing along?
Similarly can I recite my funniest lines from my favorite movies or not?
Does intent matter?
With regard to who is allowed to use the word, what percent African heritage do you need to make it acceptable? One black grandparent, two black grandparents? Three? What if you are married to a black female and have mixed children? Can your children use the word but not you?
What if you are Puerto Rican and of mixed race heritage?
Who is allowed to make the rules and change the rules?
Obviously, my point is that these rules are absurd. Either it's a vile, profane word, where nobody should use it, or it's not.
I grew up listening to NWA and the Geto Boys. I heard the word a million times in the context of music but zero times in the context of a racial insult. At this point, I find the word despicable and would never use it in any circumstance. But it's amazing how often you hear that word in pop culture. Who would have thought 30 years later we would still be having these ridiculous conversations ...