This dude didn't force himself on this player. Dude showed up to a place expecting to get laid, and he got exactly what he asked for. The issue is that this dude pretended to be a woman. It's fraudulent, it's disgusting, it's morally bankrupt, but it isn't illegal. To even portray this as something similar to a frat dude raping a girl is beyond insane. These dudes need to learn that all that glitters is not gold, and that they should exercise some caution. I would be very, very cautious about showing up to a house of a girl I didn't know, all lights off and she doesn't allow me to place my hands in certain areas. One thing my dad told me growing up, "Always be cautious of girls that never want to let you smash, but are fine blowing you, that's a red flag". This was in the early 2000s, so it's not like this is new knowledge.
I am old enough to have been on Tinder when the app first came about, and I never had these issues, I knew how to leverage the app and also exercise common sense.