Committing elsewhere or decommitting is something i don't hold against kids. Kids can be overwhelmed, especially if they don't have a good support system.
How they go about doing it is something i do hold against them. That is all about character. Character plays a key role in how kids develop as players, teammates, and individual people.....and i'd be much more comfortable spending time and money on kids with higher character, as i expect those kids have a higher probability to meet their potential.