Here's the thing though...
Either we hired someone as HC in JD who may never be okay enough to be top flight because of the tragic death of his son
OR
We hired someone who may not be up to the task because of pure job performance, but some folks will always bring up "but his son died" as a strawman to attempt to ward off any criticism of how he is performing in the job he was offered and accepted for a few million $.
Major double-standard there. I am not downplaying the loss of a child, but you don't give the guy a lifetime pass because his son passed away. There comes a time where valid critique of the results he's bringing have to be okay without someone basically using his dead son as a shield to white knight for him.
I think it's more respectful and realistic to acknowledge the tragedy of his son passing, but to also hold him accountable if he can't do the job. Separate the two. Bringing that up doesn't honor his son's memory, it uses it as a means to an end which, frankly, is pretty sick.