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MichiCANE said:
I will preface this by saying this is extremely off topic, but I need some advice. So, about 3 weeks ago, $2650 went missing from my bank account via a venmo transaction I did not authorize. It looked like somebody hacked my venmo (which was directly linked to my bank account) and paid themselves. I called my credit union, and got the money refunded, no big deal.

So, today, almost $2500 went missing AGAIN from via a Venmo transaction that I did not authorize. This time, it is from my debit card. Obviously I want to report it, but I'm not gonna lie... it seems a little weird that this would happen twice, and I don't want to be investigated for something that I didn't do, ha.

The strangest part about it all, is that this has happened since my older brother has moved in, within the last couple months. My brother is a complete mess right now, so I'm not saying he would do anything like this but... you never know I guess.

I want to report it to get my money back, but if, per say, my brother sent himself money, I don't want it to look like I sent it to him, and I am just reporting it. Has anybody ever had a few transactions like this, where money ends up missing? Any advice from CIS? Lol
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Sorry bro, I forgot to tell you that I drained your bank account.
 
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MichiCANE said:
I will preface this by saying this is extremely off topic, but I need some advice. So, about 3 weeks ago, $2650 went missing from my bank account via a venmo transaction I did not authorize. It looked like somebody hacked my venmo (which was directly linked to my bank account) and paid themselves. I called my credit union, and got the money refunded, no big deal.

So, today, almost $2500 went missing AGAIN from via a Venmo transaction that I did not authorize. This time, it is from my debit card. Obviously I want to report it, but I'm not gonna lie... it seems a little weird that this would happen twice, and I don't want to be investigated for something that I didn't do, ha.

The strangest part about it all, is that this has happened since my older brother has moved in, within the last couple months. My brother is a complete mess right now, so I'm not saying he would do anything like this but... you never know I guess.

I want to report it to get my money back, but if, per say, my brother sent himself money, I don't want it to look like I sent it to him, and I am just reporting it. Has anybody ever had a few transactions like this, where money ends up missing? Any advice from CIS? Lol
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First thing to do would have been to close your venmo account after the first issue occurred.
 
DTP said:
Delete the app, close the accounts, confront your brother.

I don't know you personally but I assume when you say your brother is a "complete mess" you're talking about substance abuse. If that's the case, yes, he is robbing you. No he will not stop until you cut him off or he gets clean. Addicts don't think like rational people. He'll feel a tinge of guilt for stealing but as soon as he gets high, he'll forget all about it.
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This. Obviously your brother is stealing from you. Report it as fraud again and you may end up bringing some heat on yourself.
 
Tell your brother that you can't believe that this happened a 2nd time. Don't accuse him of being involved. Let him know that you are going to your bank and that they along with an enforcement agency will be investigating it to find someone to bring criminal charges against. See if he comes clean at that point. If he does, well that is on you as to how you deal with that. If he doesn't come clean, report it immediately and let Venmo and the Bank investigate it. At that point if they find out it was him, well that's on him as to consequences.
 
Waterbum said:
Tell your brother that you can't believe that this happened a 2nd time. Don't accuse him of being involved. Let him know that you are going to your bank and that they along with an enforcement agency will be investigating it to find someone to bring criminal charges against. See if he comes clean at that point. If he does, well that is on you as to how you deal with that. If he doesn't come clean, report it immediately and let Venmo and the Bank investigate it. At that point if they find out it was him, well that's on him as to consequences.
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Yep. “Vent” to your brother and tell him the bank got law enforcement involved. He’ll either disappear or man up.
Also if your brother is going through some substance abuse issues, my condolences because you are in a tough predicament.
 
MainLineCane said:
Careful...really best not to answer at all....some of these thieves are smarter than you may think

Last thing you need is going on a "future prospects" list
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You mean I might have a Nigerian princess show up at my door? That would be interesting. I wonder what my wife would think of my good fortune...
 
MichiCANE said:
I just feel like its weird that this happened twice, would probably raise red flags. I'm just being paranoid more than anything, I hope
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You sound like a woman right now. Judging by what information you've divulged, you need to confront your brother before taking the process further.
 
How you deal with your brother (guilt, love, man-up, save-face) is a personal issue and probably too emotional to benefit from objective advice.

From personal experience there is a fine line between enabling (a habit) and helping someone needing support get the necessities of life. In my many experiences first-hand and otherwise, it almost never works... eventually the user has to hit bottom, fully admit and embrace the problem, want and seek help, and stick with one or more programs. Too often, (due to lousy (and corrupt) or worthless profit-factory rehab treatment systems) this fails even when and if the user reaches such a point (or is convinced to do it via intervention or loved ones.) And most "users" tend to continue to "want to get high" despite the many negatives. So the negative of you coming down on him might not even gain anything; and some users do sadly destroy themselves (as well as others) while we are waiting for their get-woke moment.

I can offer no great hope, but took the time to write this because you might save yourself an awful lot of heartache and distress by realizing all of the above sooner rather than later. Good Luck.
 
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MichiCANE said:
I will preface this by saying this is extremely off topic, but I need some advice. So, about 3 weeks ago, $2650 went missing from my bank account via a venmo transaction I did not authorize. It looked like somebody hacked my venmo (which was directly linked to my bank account) and paid themselves. I called my credit union, and got the money refunded, no big deal.

So, today, almost $2500 went missing AGAIN from via a Venmo transaction that I did not authorize. This time, it is from my debit card. Obviously I want to report it, but I'm not gonna lie... it seems a little weird that this would happen twice, and I don't want to be investigated for something that I didn't do, ha.

The strangest part about it all, is that this has happened since my older brother has moved in, within the last couple months. My brother is a complete mess right now, so I'm not saying he would do anything like this but... you never know I guess.

I want to report it to get my money back, but if, per say, my brother sent himself money, I don't want it to look like I sent it to him, and I am just reporting it. Has anybody ever had a few transactions like this, where money ends up missing? Any advice from CIS? Lol
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Your brother on heroin or meth
 
The fact that you mention your brother means you know it was him and don't want to admit it to yourself. Mention that this happened to your brother and how bad it ****es you off. Then tell him you're going to report it and prosecute the living sht out the guy AND sue him. If he doesn't fess up right then, prosecute and sue.
 
DTP said:
Delete the app, close the accounts, confront your brother.

I don't know you personally but I assume when you say your brother is a "complete mess" you're talking about substance abuse. If that's the case, yes, he is robbing you. No he will not stop until you cut him off or he gets clean. Addicts don't think like rational people. He'll feel a tinge of guilt for stealing but as soon as he gets high, he'll forget all about it.
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This thread should be closed as soon as you posted this reply. Perfect response. Big bro is probably a bit friendlier too,.. Right after you find that cash gone
 
DTP said:
Delete the app, close the accounts, confront your brother.

I don't know you personally but I assume when you say your brother is a "complete mess" you're talking about substance abuse. If that's the case, yes, he is robbing you. No he will not stop until you cut him off or he gets clean. Addicts don't think like rational people. He'll feel a tinge of guilt for stealing but as soon as he gets high, he'll forget all about it.
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Alcoholic, but pretty much the same thing. He had a great life going but he got divorced and it's really all gone downhill, it's sad to see but it is what it is
 
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mdpcane said:
the red flags here is how much you need to develop some basic life management and critical thinking skills .... if not you
are in for one **** of a rough ride, Grasshopper.
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How? lol my bank account was hacked the first time, the second time it was my debit card. It's not like I knowingly gave people my information :LOL:
 
fraggle said:
Did you change your passwords and pin code? or did you then write them down where your brother could find them? Also that amount of money is destined to someone unless he walked in the bank and acted like you, the bank has video. By the way, I use paypal instead of venmo. Sad when you can't trust family but don't enable him by being careless.
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Deleted my account and now I have another but I haven't put any of my info in it, it was used under some random name
 
Send me your Venmo account number I’ll check it out for you. Make sure you have at least 3000 dollars in there.
 
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