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I am very fortunate when it comes to the way my wife thinks. All the married men in my family and all of my married friends are jealous as f'uck. Lol
She is old school in her thinking, and by old school, I mean, very old school. She was raised to believe that a man takes care of the bills and the woman takes care of EVERYTHING else. We've been married for 14 years, and I am still trying to get her to think differently, but it is instilled so deep in her, until it's nearly impossible to change her ways.
She gets offended if I try to make my own plate for dinner. I've seen her aunt's cuss her out because my drink was low at dinner. The other day, I was vacuuming the floor. She walked in the house and was offended, because in her mind, I was doing "her job"
I honestly could not tell you how to work our washer/dryer because she would lose her mind if she saw me washing my own clothes.
It's weird for me, because I was raised to do all of these things myself. My mother is a very independent woman and raised me to be able to do everything myself (cook, clean, build, etc...) I've been doing all of that since I was 10 years old. So, imagine how odd it was for me when I got married all of that changed. It literally took me about 4 years into my marriage before I was able to convince my wife to at least let me take care of everything that was outside of the walls of our home (yard, cars, roof, etc..). One day, one of her Aunts popped up at our house unannounced. She saw me mowing the lawn and almost had a heart attack. I explained to her that things were going to be different at my home moving forward. They called a family meeting on my ***, saying that my wife was being lazy and I was allowing her to be lazy by doing her chores like mowing the lawn. Lol
Over the past few years, we've compromised to the point where now I cook 3 times a week and take care of everything outside of the walls of our home. The compromise is killing her. Lol. My wife is under 40 years old, but you would think she was raised in the 40's and 50's during the "take care of your man" era!
She is old school in her thinking, and by old school, I mean, very old school. She was raised to believe that a man takes care of the bills and the woman takes care of EVERYTHING else. We've been married for 14 years, and I am still trying to get her to think differently, but it is instilled so deep in her, until it's nearly impossible to change her ways.
She gets offended if I try to make my own plate for dinner. I've seen her aunt's cuss her out because my drink was low at dinner. The other day, I was vacuuming the floor. She walked in the house and was offended, because in her mind, I was doing "her job"
I honestly could not tell you how to work our washer/dryer because she would lose her mind if she saw me washing my own clothes.
It's weird for me, because I was raised to do all of these things myself. My mother is a very independent woman and raised me to be able to do everything myself (cook, clean, build, etc...) I've been doing all of that since I was 10 years old. So, imagine how odd it was for me when I got married all of that changed. It literally took me about 4 years into my marriage before I was able to convince my wife to at least let me take care of everything that was outside of the walls of our home (yard, cars, roof, etc..). One day, one of her Aunts popped up at our house unannounced. She saw me mowing the lawn and almost had a heart attack. I explained to her that things were going to be different at my home moving forward. They called a family meeting on my ***, saying that my wife was being lazy and I was allowing her to be lazy by doing her chores like mowing the lawn. Lol
Over the past few years, we've compromised to the point where now I cook 3 times a week and take care of everything outside of the walls of our home. The compromise is killing her. Lol. My wife is under 40 years old, but you would think she was raised in the 40's and 50's during the "take care of your man" era!
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